TIM MCCARTY

TIM MCCARTY is (I can't refer to him in the past because I often feel him around me) one of the gentlest people i've ever met. He always responded to every email an ETS patient sent him. It still pains me that he's gone, because he was one of very few people who understands who I am and what I am about. I still see him in my dreams and I know that he is still supporting me. I now understand why he is Tim - because of the two devoted parents he has. His Mum loves him like a Mother loves her precious boy and misses the long intimate chats about absolutely everything in his life...they were that close. His Dad is proud of how much Tim had achieved. Tim has an amazing brain and can talk about anything, but also has the patience to talk to everyone. Tim...you're spirit is still around us and we won't let anyone take what we admired in you, even if you thought the surgery did.

Tim affected everyone around him in a positive way. This is from his best friend Nigel Ball:

I would like to speak about and celebrate Tim McCarty's life.

He was a number of things to me and I guess a lot of other people as well, and that is a true friend, a person you could trust, love and respect and it has been an honor for me to konw Tim for over 20 years, maybe more, but it seems like forever.

When we first met we shared a one bedroom apartment between the four of us. We thought we were in heaven as we had been living in a Backpackers Hostel and had been sharing a room with 12 others, (not the most pleasant experience), with all the snoring and people coming and going at all hours, so to get a bit of space it was a real treat for us.

I remember at one stage Tim was looking to try out different jobs that might interest him. He landed a great job as a Cocktail Barman in a fancy place. Of course he needed lots of practice in order to be a good barman, and what are friends for? - I became his guinea pig..., and that was just like Tim always giving and sharing.

He was bright and smart, and could mix with anyone, and we would always be willing to help out, if you were moving, needed a lift somewhere, he was Mr. Reliable.

No matter how busy he was or what was going on in his life, he always found time for me and the people in his life.

Tim to me was not just a friend, he was family, and like a brother to me in many ways, and he was always there for his friends, no matter what circumstances, or situations.

Let me tell you what many of you already know about Tim. He was kind, and generous, thoughtful and considerate, open and caring, and always sharing.

He shared of himself - his time, his love, and his true bond as a friend.

People, who knew Tim well, will know that he would help anyone, at cost to himself at times and never expect anything back in return.

To Tim's parents I would like to say thank you, for having such a wonderful son, and a really fantastic person, and it has been a real privilege for me to know him.

I couldn't have asked for a better friend and in all the years I knew Tim, he never had a bad word to say about anyone, he always kept calm cool and collected, even under the stress of his condition.

I am lucky and feel happy that I got the chance to know the real Tim, and am proud to have had him as my friend, right to the end.

Nothing will ever take Tim's memory from me, there are just too many good times to remember, and he made an effort to be anywhere he could to meet up with you.

I am very sad that Tim is no longer with us, and I cherished the time I had with him, but I want to celebrate Tim's life going forward, as he brought job, happiness and friendship to my life, and will always be remembered in my house and the utmost affection and love.

When my children are old enough to understand, and they ask me "Who is that man with you in the photo?" I will explain to them the virtues of mate-ship, and of good friends, and tell them that Tim was one such friend, and daddy never had a better friend in his life than that man in the photo.

I could write so much more about Tim - there were so many good things about him, and not one bad.

I wish Tim was here today, so I could thank him in person for being the kind of friend, that comes along only once in a life time.

Tim was special to me and I will miss him, but his memory will be with me forever.

Goodbye Tim,

Your friend

Nigel

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